First of all, I applaud the fact that you are so supportive of your child. It is not always easy to dedicate two afternoons a week to practice soccer and play a soccer game.
That being said, "Get a freaking clue!"
Do you know that the kids on the field are 6 years old? They are first graders, and some of them (like my daughter) are playing soccer for the very first time.
They are going to make mistakes.
They are going to forget the rules.
They are going to mess around and laugh and have fun.
That is what soccer is all about in my book. And, yes, I may not have a competitive bone in my body, but I do have a heart.
So sit your loud self down, stop yelling at these kids, and think about what you are teaching your child.
Do you want him to grow up thinking that if he does not win he is worthless?
Do you want him to grow up thinking that everything he does has to be taken seriously?
Do you want him to grow up thinking that if he makes a mistake you will yell at him?
Let these kids be kids.
Let them learn.
Let them play soccer.
And most of all, let them have fun!
Sincerely,
MomOf3
Written for NaBloPoMo's write a letter a day challenge.
5 comments:
AMEN!!! some parents have no idea what they are doing tho their children by screaming at them from the sidelines...sad, very sad!
I couldn't agree more!!!!!!!!!!!!!
I mentioned in one of my post that Princess just quite a softball team.. I never got into the whole story.. but this is the reason why..
She had been practicing with this team from Aug 2007 and they got into a winter league starting in March 08 they lost there 1st game the coach got a little loud with them for it, they lost there 2nd game she almost lost her cool but then pulled herself back(mind you these girls are good players but they are 12 year old and they were playing in a 14 year old league so they are playing girls who have been playing together longer and are older) WEll when they lost there 3rd game after the game the coach went off on these girls.. telling them they aren't good enough to even step foot on the field and that none of them have what it takes.. OH MY GOODNESS... that was that.. we were not going to let Princess stay on a team and play all summer long with someone who is going to put the girls down if they don't play the way she wants them too, she had about 4 of the girls on the team in tears... yet there was parents standing there agreeing with this women.. I don't get that at all.. We pulled Aubrie off the team told both the coach and the director why she would not be playing with them anymore.. Now i do get that Princess's team is a competative team the kind you pay $100's of dollars to play on and it is taken alot more seirous then the normal rec league but there is NO reason at all to be yelling at a team.. telling them they are no good is not going to make them better players or even make them want to try harder..
Now the other part of my story I didn't share was that DH mentioned on a BB for sports type stuff that we took her off this team and the next day the #1 state ranked team contacted us asking us if Princess could come and play for them.. They are a great team.. they hardly ever lose a game they needed a 1st base and pitcher which Princess plays.. and they keep it about having fun even while they are winning.. the only problem is they are 3 hours away.. YICKES... but my crazy DH went ahead and put her on the team.. I"m trying to be supportive and not complain to much about having to to travel 3 hours away for 3 weekends this summer and 2 weekends this spring.. because they are not making her practice with the team and the team is paying most of our hotel expenses..
but next weekend they are playing in TN so we will be traveling out of state for softball.. OH ME!!!!
Amen!!
My Abby is not the world's most zealous soccer player. Or the most coordinated. Or the fastest - well you get the idea. But she gets out there and has a blast, and as far as I'm concerned, that's all that matters.
Great post!! :)
AMEN! When I hear about these parents, I am just extra glad my kids have never had any interest in soccer (or any other competitive sport like that)
There ain't MLS scouts in the stands at a 6 yr old soccer game!
We have that here with rugby. Rugby is BIG in our country but it's also a contact sport where kids can get hurt rather badly. My feeling is at this age, they must absolutely only enjoy it. No rough tackling or pushing the kids in there faces. Well apparently we are the only school that feels that way
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